The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

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Stephen Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” presents a principle-centered approach for personal and interpersonal effectiveness. The habits progress from dependence to independence (Private Victory: Habits 1-3), and then to interdependence (Public Victory: Habits 4-6), all sustained by continuous improvement (Habit 7).

2.1 Habit 1: Be Proactive (Principles of Personal Vision)

This habit is about taking responsibility for your life. Proactive people recognize they are “response-able” — they choose their actions, attitudes, and moods. They don’t blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior.

  1. Focus on your Circle of Influence: Concentrate efforts on things you can control, rather than worrying about things in your Circle of Concern (which you can’t control).
  2. Use proactive language: Instead of “I can’t” or “If only,” use “I will,” “I can,” “I prefer.”, “I choose”, “I get to” (instead of I have to)
  3. Take initiative: Act to bring about change and don’t wait for others to do so.

Circle of Concern vs. Circle of Influence:

  • Circle of Concern: Encompasses the wide range of concerns we have – health, children, problems at work, national debt, nuclear war.

  • Circle of Influence: Encompasses those concerns that we can do something about. Proactive people focus their energy on their Circle of Influence. As they work on themselves, their Circle of Influence expands. Reactive people focus on the Circle of Concern, leading to blaming, accusing, and victimized feelings, shrinking their Circle of Influence.

2.2 Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind (Principles of Personal Leadership)

This habit is about defining your mission and goals in life. It means knowing where you’re going so as to better understand where you are now and so that the steps you take are always in the right direction.

  1. Develop a personal mission statement: A personal constitution that outlines your core values and long-term vision.
  2. Visualize your future: Imagine your funeral and what you’d want people to say about you. This helps clarify your deepest values.
  3. Align actions with your mission: Ensure daily activities contribute to your overall life goals.

A personal mission statement is a powerful document that expresses your personal sense of purpose and meaning in life. It should focus on:

  1. What you want to be (character)

  2. What you want to do (contributions and achievements)

  3. The values or principles upon which your being and doing are based. Review and revise it regularly as you grow and change.

2.3 Habit 3: Put First Things First (Principles of Personal Management)

This habit involves organizing and executing around your most important priorities (identified in Habit 2). It’s about living and acting based on principles and values rather than reacting to urgent demands.

  1. Prioritize based on importance, not urgency: Focus on activities that are important for your long-term goals, even if they aren’t urgent.
  2. Use the Time Management Matrix: Spend most of your time in Quadrant II (Important, Not Urgent).
  3. Plan weekly, organize daily: Create a weekly plan based on your roles and goals, then adapt daily.
  4. Learn to say “no”: Politely decline requests that don’t align with your priorities.

Urgent Important Quadrants

Tasks can be categorized based on urgency and importance:

Quadrant I (Urgent/Important): Crises, deadlines. Manage these.

Quadrant II (Not Urgent/Important): Prevention, relationship building, new opportunities, planning. Focus here for effectiveness.

Quadrant III (Urgent/Not Important): Interruptions, some meetings. Often mistaken for Q1. Learn to delegate or minimize.

Quadrant IV (Not Urgent/Not Important): Trivia, time wasters. Avoid. Effective people minimize time in QIII and QIV and invest heavily in QII.

2.4 Habit 4: Think Win-Win (Principles of Interpersonal Leadership)

This habit is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-Win sees life as a co-operative, not a competitive, arena.

  1. Seek mutual benefit: Strive for solutions that are satisfactory and beneficial to all parties involved.

  2. Build on an Abundance Mentality: Believe there’s plenty for everybody, rather than a scarcity mindset where one person’s gain is another’s loss.

  3. Requires three character traits:

    a. Integrity (sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments),

    b. Maturity (expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas and feelings of others), and

    c. Abundance Mentality.

  4. Agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial, mutually satisfying.

2.5 Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood (Principles of Empathic Communication)

This habit is key to effective interpersonal communication. Most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand.

  1. Practice empathic listening: Listen with your ears, eyes, and heart to grasp the feeling and meaning of what’s being said. Reflect feeling and content.
  2. Diagnose before you prescribe: Understand the situation fully before offering solutions or advice.
  3. Understand the other person’s frame of reference: See the world as they see it.

When listening, people often respond in one of four ways, which are roadblocks to understanding:

  1. Evaluating: Agreeing or disagreeing.

  2. Probing: Asking questions from our own frame of reference.

  3. Advising: Giving counsel based on our own experience.

  4. Interpreting: Trying to figure people out, to explain their motives. Instead, practice reflecting what the other person is saying and feeling.

2.6 Habit 6: Synergize (Principles of Creative Co-operation)

Synergy is when the whole is greater than the sum of its parts (1+1 > 2). It’s about valuing differences, building on strengths, and compensating for weaknesses to create new, better alternatives.

  1. Value differences: See mental, emotional, and psychological differences as strengths, not weaknesses.
  2. Seek third alternatives: Look for solutions that are better than what either party could come up with alone.
  3. Create a co-operative environment: Foster openness, trust, and a willingness to explore new possibilities.

2.7 Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw (Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal)

This habit focuses on preserving and enhancing your greatest asset: yourself. It means having a balanced, systematic program for self-renewal in the four areas of your life.

  1. Physical: Exercise, nutrition, stress management.
  2. Spiritual: Clarifying values, study, meditation, spending time in nature.
  3. Mental: Reading, visualising, planning, writing, continuous learning.
  4. Social/Emotional: Service, empathy, synergy, intrinsic security (Habits 4, 5, 6). Continuous improvement in these areas enhances your capacity to live all other habits effectively.

2.8 Other key ideas

The 7 Habits guide individuals through a progression:

  1. Dependence: The paradigm of “you” – you take care of me.

  2. Independence: The paradigm of “I” – I can do it; I am responsible. (Achieved through Habits 1, 2, 3 - Private Victory)

  3. Interdependence: The paradigm of “we” – we can co-operate and combine our talents to create something greater. (Achieved through Habits 4, 5, 6 - Public Victory)

Habit 7 supports the ongoing development across this continuum.

Effectiveness is defined as the balance between P (Production of desired results) and PC (Production Capability – the ability or asset that produces).

  • If you focus solely on P (e.g., working long hours for immediate output), your PC (health, skills, relationships) will suffer, eventually reducing P.

  • If you focus solely on PC (e.g., endless training without application), you won’t produce desired results. Maintain this balance in all aspects of life for sustainable effectiveness.

“If the ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step we take just gets us to the wrong place faster” Steven Covey

Covey emphasises that to make significant changes in our lives (our “outward” behaviors and results), we must first change our “inward” paradigms – how we see the world, our assumptions, and our understanding. The 7 Habits are based on timeless principles. Aligning our paradigms with these principles (e.g., fairness, integrity, human dignity) is crucial for true effectiveness. A change in perception (paradigm shift) can lead to a quantum leap in personal and interpersonal effectiveness.

2.9 Key Phrases to use

  • “I choose my response.” (Habit 1)
  • “What is my personal mission?” (Habit 2)
  • “Is this a Quadrant II activity?” or “Is this important, or just urgent?” (Habit 3)
  • “How can we both win?” or “Let’s find a solution that benefits us both.” (Habit 4)
  • “Help me understand your perspective before I share mine.” (Habit 5)
  • “Let’s value our differences and find a better way together.” (Habit 6)
  • “How am I renewing myself physically, mentally, spiritually, and socially/emotionally today?” (Habit 7)
  • “Focus on your Circle of Influence.”
  • “Seek P/PC Balance.”

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4 Practise

A core practice from “The 7 Habits” is to engage in weekly planning using the principles of Habit 3 (Put First Things First). This involves:

  1. Identifying your key roles in life (e.g., spouse, parent, manager, team member, individual).
  2. Setting 1-2 important goals (Quadrant II activities) for each role for the upcoming week.
  3. Scheduling time to accomplish these goals. Try this for one week and reflect on its impact on your effectiveness and sense of balance.

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