Solve for Happy: Engineer Your Path to Joy

Engineer Your Path to Joy

self help
personal development
psychology

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2 Book Summary: Solve for Happy by Mo Gawdat

Written by Google [X] executive Mo Gawdat, “Solve for Happy” presents an engineer’s approach to achieving lasting happiness. The model was developed over a decade to combat his own chronic unhappiness despite immense success. It was put to the ultimate test when his son, Ali, died tragically during a routine operation. This book is Gawdat’s mission to share the model that helped his family endure unimaginable grief and find peace, honouring Ali’s memory by helping 10 million people become happier.

2.1 The Happiness Equation

Gawdat’s core premise is that happiness is our default state. Unhappiness arises from a simple, solvable equation. The key is to understand that it’s not events themselves, but our thoughts about them, that cause suffering.

The Happiness Equation is:

Your Happiness is ≥ Your Perception of the Events of Your Life - Your Expectations of How Life Should Be

This means you are happy when life’s events meet or exceed your expectations. Since you can’t always control events, the path to happiness lies in managing your perceptions and expectations by correcting faulty thinking.

The book distinguishes between useful pain and useless suffering.

  1. Pain is a necessary survival mechanism. The pain of touching a hot stove is a useful, instructive signal to protect you. It’s temporary.
  2. Suffering is self-generated, prolonged pain. It comes from replaying negative thoughts about a past event or imagining negative future scenarios. Suffering offers no benefit and is a choice we can unmake.

2.2 The 6-7-5 Model for Lasting Joy

Gawdat proposes a structured model to debug our internal programming and return to our default state of happiness, aiming for a state of uninterrupted peace he calls joy.

  1. Bust the 6 Grand Illusions: These are fundamental misunderstandings that lead to a state of confusion and prevent us from seeing the world clearly.
  2. Fix the 7 Blind Spots: These are flawed ways our brains process reality, leading to a state of suffering (unhappiness).
  3. Hang on to the 5 Ultimate Truths: Embracing these truths helps you rise above the clutter of thought to find a lasting state of joy.

Gawdat’s entire framework is built on a simple, powerful question that acts as a debugging tool for any negative thought that causes suffering. Before you accept any thought as reality, ask yourself:

“Is it true?”

Question the thought relentlessly. Is it always true? Can you be 100% certain it’s true? This simple inquiry reveals how often our suffering is based on thoughts that are incomplete, assumed, or just plain false.

2.3 Other key ideas

These are the core myths that keep us in a state of confusion and unhappiness.

  1. Illusion of Thought: You are not the voice in your head. You are the observer of your thoughts. You can choose which thoughts to engage with.
  2. Illusion of Self: You are not your body, your achievements, your possessions, or your ego. These are temporary masks. The real you is the constant, calm observer within.
  3. Illusion of Knowledge: We know very little. We must be humble and open, realising that much of what we “know” is incomplete or incorrect. Life often gives us “nudges” (seemingly bad events) that lead to better outcomes.
  4. Illusion of Time: The past and future exist only in our minds. All of life happens in the “now.” Most suffering comes from thoughts anchored in a past you can’t change or a future that doesn’t exist.
  5. Illusion of Control: You cannot control life’s events, which are subject to “black swans” (major unpredictable events) and “butterfly effects” (tiny changes with huge consequences). You can only control your actions and your attitude. Practice “committed acceptance”: do your best, then surrender the outcome.
  6. Illusion of Fear: Fear is a protective mechanism that has gone haywire. Most fears are exaggerated future projections. The key is to face them by interrogating the worst-case scenario.

These are the brain’s flawed processing habits that distort reality and lead to suffering. They are ancient survival tools ill-suited for the modern world.

  1. Filtering: Your brain omits information to focus, often filtering out the positive and focusing on the negative.
  2. Assumptions: Your brain fills in missing information with stories, which are often incorrect and negatively biased.
  3. Predictions: Your brain extrapolates past data to create future scenarios, treating them as facts when they are just one of infinite possibilities.
  4. Memories: Your memories are not perfect recordings; they are flawed stories that we incorrectly use to judge the present.
  5. Labels: We apply simplistic, judgmental labels (e.g., “good,” “bad,” “scary”) that prevent us from seeing the full context of reality.
  6. Emotions: We often make decisions based on emotion and then use logic to justify them, rather than the other way around.
  7. Exaggeration: Our brains blow threats and negatives out of proportion to grab our attention, causing unnecessary anxiety.

These are the foundational realities of life. Accepting them solves the Happiness Equation permanently.

  1. Now is Real: The present moment is the only reality. Awareness is our default state. To find it, we must stop doing and simply be.
  2. Change is Real: Life is in constant flux. The path to peace is to find balance (the “pendulum swing”) and avoid extremes. Practice gratitude by “looking down” at how fortunate you are, rather than “looking up” in comparison.
  3. Love is Real: Unconditional love is the only emotion not generated by thought. Its true joy is in the giving, without expectation. Love yourself, love others, and be kind.
  4. Death is Real: Death is not an event but a process; it is not the enemy of life but a part of it. Accepting our mortality removes fear and teaches us to live fully. See life as a game; this is just one level.
  5. Grand Design is Real: Life is not a series of random events but part of an intricate design governed by universal laws. There is no divine intervention moment-to-moment; events unfold according to the design. Accepting this removes the “why me?” victim mentality and leads to peace.

2.4 Key Phrases to use

  • Is it true?
  • Will it bring [my loved one] back? (When dealing with irreversible loss)
  • What’s the worst that can happen? And so what?
  • Live In Peace (L.I.P.)
  • Shut the duck up. (To silence the incessant chatter in your head)
  • Choose to be kind instead of right.

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4 Practise

A core practice from the book is to become the observer of your thoughts. Try this for 5 minutes:

  1. Sit quietly and close your eyes.
  2. Don’t try to stop your thoughts. Instead, just watch them as they appear in your mind, like clouds passing in the sky.
  3. When a thought appears, label it gently (e.g., “planning,” “worrying,” “remembering”) without judgment.
  4. Remind yourself: “I am not my thoughts. I am the one watching them.” This exercise helps you create distance from the voice in your head, breaking the cycle of suffering and proving the Illusion of Thought.

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